Therapy for Couples

There are usually two basic reasons couples come to therapy. Either they want help in fixing whatever is causing the relational distress, or they want help in moving in the direction of a separation or a divorce. However, sometimes one wants to fix the problems and the other wants out. Sometimes they don't know what they want, but that life together feels bad.

Because of the complex nature of couples counseling, it is important to have someone trained to help you identify your individual goals and to help you choose a direction that will produce a positive outcome. It is important that both individuals are understood and heard.

Areas I work in:

  • Conflict with Families and In-Laws

  • Parenting and Co-parenting

  • Marriage Enrichment

  • Divorce/Breakup Counseling 

Staying/Marital Counseling

If the goal is to stay together, we will examine all the areas of the relationship and identify what can be done to improve those areas. Maybe there are disagreements about money, sex and intimacy or parenting. Whatever they are, it is only through an understanding of each persons perspective and their wants and needs that acceptance and solutions can emerge. We will address everything you are feeling and together we will work to get the relationship back on track. This requires a commitment from both individuals. Unless that commitment is present, the process will not be successful. In addition to fixing the problem areas, I can help you discover new ways to enrich your marriage.

Separating/Break-up Counseling

If it is decided that a divorce or separation is where things are headed, it is very import for each to understand all the options for getting through the process. I can educate and guide you in the various processes such as divorce mediation, collaboration or litigation. I understand each process and their differences and can help you choose the best process for your goals.

It is always my goal to help a couple minimize unnecessary debt and conflict in a divorce or break-up and especially when kids are involved. No one wants a lifetime of bitterness and destructive hatred. Whether this is a shared decision or not, both are experiencing powerful emotions and the loss of someone significant in their life, as well as the dream of a life together. For this reason this process must be approached with extreme sensitivity and care.